INTERVIEW BASED ON TRUST IN FAMILY LIFE & RELATIONSHIP

Interview someone — a friend, another blogger, your mother, the mailman — and write a post based on their responses.

Few months after my wedding, I decided to sample my wife’s opinion on infidelity in marriage. My intention on that fateful night was to measure her capacity of information management as well as her ability to thoroughly investigate any reportage from outsider that portrays distrust about her husband (Me).

The response I got was so shocking. Although as a disciplined man, I have zero tolerance for infidelity in marriage, at the same time, I found out that my wife needs to be tutored on how to manage a scenario as such if peradventure a case of false accusation of that nature comes up in our journey of marriage.

Here we go:

Me:   dear if anyone reports me to you that I am having an extra-marital affairs with another woman, what will you do)

My wife:.  I will kill you! ( She exclaimed)

It was a very short opinion sampling, and I got a very short but shocking response.

Many marriages collapsed not because of an outright case of infidelity, but because of inability of either of the spouses to process, manage and investigate matters of such nomenclature. Many homes have been destroyed, many innocent lives lost untimely and the future of many children have been ruined because, there was no room for proper investigation on allegation of infidelity in marriage.

It took me nothing less that thirty minutes to lovingly educate my wife on how to manage such information, so as not to take actions that will be detrimental to herself and the entire members of the family.

In my country, cases of husbands killing their wives and wives stabbing their husbands to death on an account of unverified reportage of infidelity are very rampant.

In marriage, we must learn to be thorough in our investigation if peradventure our spouse is indicted for infidelity.

Commiting homicide or suicide will not solve the problem even if our investigation turns out to be true. The law enforcement agencies as well as Courts are there to mediate and resolve issues of such magnitude amicably without loss of life.

Love and trust should be our guiding angels in our respective marriages.